Being a Single Mom is tough! We are so tide up with just being a mom that there’s little to no room for dating, like literally. Now that I have my youngest who will be 8 months in a few weeks I have had a zero-love life. Before when it was just my oldest because she was older so my mom would take care of her when I would go out (again it wasn’t that often) but now the baby is still a baby for me to actually go on dates.
At times I feel conflicted with dating as a single mom now of two babies and two baby daddies. Ugh! I know! I know! It’s my fault for being in my situation but in all honesty, I never signed up to be a single mom, it really just happened and for not taking care of myself and not choosing the right man for the job. Not trying to bash but it really is what it is.
Often times I do get lonely, well more than often for sure! But then I ask myself the really big question, can I really date someone right now? When I feel lonely, I am like “I need a man! “Where is he at! And other times I get too into my thoughts and realize that maybe right now is not a good time date.
Not sure how other single mommas feel, cause all our journeys are different but I yearn for a love that completes me in a sense that he is my person, a man who motivates me to be and do better, a man who makes me feel like home around him and vice versa. I know it’s possible cause once upon a time I felt it, like the universes magic of bringing two souls together. Such a beautiful feeling but it wasn’t meant for me in this lifetime.
So, ladies how do we really know we are ready to date? I have searched for a few key things that can help us make that decision.
- Are you confident in your own skin? (This one hit deep for me because I am not where I want to be physically…)
- What do you want from dating
- Do you have healthy boundaries that you learn from your previous partner or situation?
- Can you commit to getting to know someone?
- Are you dating just to date or are you intentionally dating?
Being conflicted myself on dating is just another confirmation that at this present moment in time I am not ready to date and that is okay. But when I do start dating again, I want to intentionally date.